According to Confucius,friendship is a type of pan-social interpersonal relationship. Though different from the relationship based on the clan system,friendship exerts a heavy influence on a persons life. In this sense,Confucius advocated choosing good men to be friends,whose qualities in morality and wisdom make two key criteria for making friends. The essence of Confuciuss idea of friendship ethics is the duty of mutual help and the pursuit of high morality. This reflects the humani-tarian principle of“virtuous men love their fellows”and an orientation towards practicing fraternity and equality. This idea of Confucius is still of great significance today,which provides a solid basis for constructing harmonious interpersonal relationship.%孔子认为，朋友关系是一种特别的泛社会化的人际关系，它虽然不同于宗法血缘关系，但是它的亲密和牢固程度对人生的成功和失败有着重要的影响。在这一意义上，孔子主张选择优胜者为友，特别强调德性和知性两个向度的择友原则。孔子朋友伦理精神的实质是互助的责任和道德的追求，体现为“仁者爱人”的人道精神，同时也透视了孔子朋友伦理思想的平等与博爱取向。孔子所主张的朋友伦理精神，在当今仍具有重要的现实意义，它为和谐人际关系的建构提供了深厚的价值依据。
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